A Boy.

This news is coming quite quite late, but we’re having a boy.

Come December, Nya will have a little brother! Tamika and I have been very very excited about the whole thing, but with all of the other craziness going on (the car, Tamika staying at home, the American economy deflating like a 2-week old balloon animal) I just haven’t had time to write about it.

He’s very healthy, and as Tamika will attest, it’s a very different pregnancy from Nya’s. Staying home helps a lot too, I think, and is allowing Tamika to “nest” a little more (read that in a pregnancy book for guys that my friend Chris Beard gave to me).

Tamika is going in for another sonogram soon, so I’ll post up pictures as soon as I have them.

Nya is doing great too! She’s standing up and edging around furniture. She hasn’t quite take her first step though, but if she’s not thinking about it, she can stand on her own for about 3 seconds (though as soon as she realizes she’s standing up, she sits down). She crawls and scoots her way all over the place, which has caused us to be a lot more thoughtful about picking things up! She also enjoys talking, clapping her hands, impersonating Popeye the Sailor, banging wooden spoons on over turned pots, and climbing stairs.
Yes, climbing stairs. Thankfully, Connie Molitor, an former coworker of ours, gave us a set of wooden gates for the stairs. However, because Nya is so small, she actually fits under the gate that leads upstairs. We turn around, and there she is, halfway up the stairs clapping her hands and smiling. We shoved a bolster pillow underneath the gate in the meantime, and occasionally allow her peak-scaling activities by following her up.

She hasn’t quite learned any words yet, but she’s close. She does say Bubba (for Bottle), and has a vocabulary of other sounds she likes to make. Ummm (like she’s about to say something), Abu, and Goyim-goyim-goyim are some of her favourites.

More later!

The Picnic, the Car, Baltimore, Québec City, Sept-Îles, Schefferville

-Originally written 7/24/2008-

Aloha!

I’m sitting in the club car of the Tshiuetin Railway, the only train between Schefferville and Sept-Îles.

The Picnic

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On Sunday, Tamika, Talisha, Tom (Talisha’s boyfriend) and I all drove up to Philadelphia to go to the Mapp family reunion. Tamika’s mom (whom everyone calls “Angel” as a nickname) has the maiden name of Mapp, which is her father’s last name. So her whole side of the family was there. It was really nice. They held it in a park near the Philadelphia Zoo parking lot; a huge open area underneath a canopy of ancient trees. They had everything there. Ribs, hot dogs, hamburgers, coleslaw, 25 different flavours of chicken (curried, fried, baked, broiled, barbequed, blackened…) rice, beans, meatballs, sausages… and that doesn’t even count the hundreds of deserts and candies and drinks they had too!
Nya was already up there (she had spent the weekend with Tamika’s mom) and she was having a ball meeting everyone and being passed around. She’s learned how to clap her hands now when she’s excited, and will mimic you if you do it.

The Car

Tamika, Nya and I have been driving for the past two days.
Troy didn’t fix the Mercury in time for us to drive it, so we had to rent.
Tamika and I talked about it, and decided it would be the best decision, despite the price. I wanted to get a Mini Cooper or a convertible of some sort… just to make the long drive a little more tolerable, but in the end we agreed to just get whatever was cheapest.
Last time, we rented from Enterprise, which we used to drive to Connecticut. This time, however, when I called them to see if I could drive the car over the border, they said no way.
I did a little research; Budget, same thing. National, same thing. Alamo said I could, but they were expensive. Tamika and I wanted to go with the cheapest, smallest car available (which seemed like a Kia at most places. I checked up on Avis. Border crossing? No problem. And it was $200 cheaper than Enterprise.
On Monday, Tamika and I went in for her checkup. We were a little late, so it took longer than we originally planned, but it was cool to hear the heartbeat of the new baby! Everything was normal. We’re going to different doctor than we did last time; and they’re very nice. Very knowledgeable too. Nya’s checkup doctor seemed bit condescending to me when we used to go. The doctors paid little attention to me (I was at almost every visit). I understand their reasoning; I’m not the one giving birth… but when it came to things that Tamika should be doing or food she should be eating, or even how to take care of the baby after it’s born… they always talked to her.
After the appointment, we drove to the Avis in the Lakeforest Mall; right outside of the National Fatherhood Initiative.
The kid at the desk was really nice. We told him what we wanted, and was happy to oblige. However, once he looked through the system, he asked us if we would like to drive a convertible. They had a red convertible 2008 Misubishi Eclipse, which had two tiny cracks in the windshield. With such a defacement, it could no longer sell it at normal price, and so it was the same price as the economy cars we were looking at.
We thought about it, and decided to go with it. Tamika drove our Saturn to work, and the rental agent drove me to the lot to pick it up.
It was beautiful. Candy apple red, with a black mesh and leather interior and matching top.
I took the top down and drove it home feeling like a king. I’d never driven a car like that before; every car I’d owned had something wrong with it. I wasn’t accustomed to such luxury.
I drove to the birth certificate office near our house. I needed to get some sort of paperwork proving Nya was ours so that we could take her with us.
When I got there, someone told me I should hurry up to get there before they closed down for the day, so I ran.
Waiting in line at the office, I suddenly realized I no longer had my phone. I knew I had in the car; Tamika had called me from her office on my way back… but I couldn’t leave. The office was indeed closing, and because I had to take a number to be waited on, I knew I wouldn’t be able to get back in if I went to look for my phone.
I was miserable. It took 30 minutes for them to process my request, but it seemed like hours. As soon as I had it, I dashed out the door, asking everyone I saw. No one had seen it. I ran out to the car. Not there. Not under the seats. Not in the parking lot.
I was frustrated. I drove to the gas station, and filled up. I had the thought that maybe I should leave my information with the security people back at the office.
I drove back.
It was hot. REALLY hot. Maybe 95-100º F. But I didn’t notice.
I ran back to the office. I asked the security. Nothing. I left them a note. I asked some more officers. Passersby. Anyone.
Nothing.
I ran back out to the parking lot, and ran around everywhere. Nothing.
Dejected, I drove home.
Once I got home, I felt a tingling feeling on my neck and arms.
I was burnt crispy. All red.
I sat in the reading room chair, wondering what to do.
I noticed the light on the answering machine was blinking. Tamika had left me a message. Someone had found the phone!
Apparently when I was running, I had dropped it, and some lady who was shopping picked it up and called my parents. They directed her to Tamika, and Tamika called the house.
I called the lady’s husband up, and he agreed to meet me that evening with the phone.
I spent the rest of the day cleaning, doing laundry, packing and preparing food for the trip.
At 9 I went to pick up my phone. Turns out that the lady’s husband, David Muhammad, owns a media company! We exchanged information. His team seems pretty cool, and he said he was looking for some help with some graphic design! We’ll see what happens.

Baltimore to Québec City

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Early Monday morning, we took off for Canada. I had fit everything we needed in the Mitsubishi, and we drove for most of the morning with the top down (up until it got hot). We took I-83 north to Harrisburg, and then continued on I-81 all the way up to 1,000 Islands. I’d never crossed the border up there; it is really beautiful. Right before the border was a really tall bridge that led us onto one of the main islands, and down below you could see the most beautiful lakehouses, yaghts, jetskis, people swimming… all nestled among these islands overflowing with pine trees.
We crossed the border without a hitch, and continued on up.
In Québec, we hit some fierce thunderstorms. Huge thunderheads, at least a mile wide and several miles high crashed down on us, turning the roads outside of Montréal to rivers and turning the visibility to practically nothing. The Mitsubishi had some really nice tires on it, though, so we stayed firm on the road.
Late Monday night we met up with my parents at Le Comfortel in Québec City.

Québec City to Sept-Îles

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Tuesday morning we got up bright and early and took 40 north along the St. Lawrence, caravanning wit my parents. They wanted to take Nya along in their car (plus, she didn’t seem to enjoy sitting alone in the back of the Mitsubishi), so I installed the car seat in the back of their Taurus. It was a beautiful ride. I love that part of the trip just because there is so much to see. And surprisingly, it didn’t make Tamika sick at all. That ride always made me and my brother and sister motion sick when we were younger.
We crossed the ferry at Tadoussac. I saw the back of a whale briefly, but I don’t think anyone else caught it.
Just outside Sept-Îles we stopped at the beach… but there was very little wind in the parking lot and within seconds we were suffocated with black flies. Even though there was a nice breeze on the beach, we decided on to stay and continue on to Sept-Îles.

Sept-Îles to Schefferville

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This morning we got up from the Comfort Inn (next to Mike’s restaurant) and drove to the train station. It’s really cool to see the train completely native run. About 4 years ago, the Naskapis and Montagnais got together and purchased the railway from the Iron Ore Company of Canada (IOC) and have been working on getting it repaired. This summer they got a grant from the government to repair it.
It’s been a beautiful ride so far. Tamika stood out in the vestibule with me watching the scenery, and got to see the Tonka Falls.
I just realize I made a grave mistake, though… I left the battery charger to my camera at home!!! I packed 16 GB worth of memory cards, and now my battery is just about dead!! My dad and I are going to see if we can rig something when we get home.

Twi, Troy, & Free Music

Twi

Tamika and I invited Twi over for dinner last night; it was spur of the moment and we ordered subs and cheesy fries from Pizza House. It was nice to just relax. We talked and laughed, and watched the BET Awards. Good performances.
At one point Chris Brown did a routine with Ciara in which they used a huge waterfall mechanism in the background, which spelled out shapes and letter as they performed. I thought it was a pretty cool effect.

Troy

I talked to Troy when I got home from work; and he had bad news. Troy had been employed by a landlord of one of the houses on our street; Bill Pound.
Troy had been doing general repairs as well as some plumbing work in the house, but unfortunately, he and Bill had a falling out. Troy had been storing the parts (the axle, among other things) behind the house, and after their falling out, Bill had cleaned up the backyard and thrown everything away.
Troy was very apologetic about it, and said he was just going to buy the parts from the scrapyard again in the morning, since it was his fault.
In addition to this, Troy hasn’t been able to find the keys I gave him to the car. He said he would buy an ignition and door locks if he wasn’t able to find them.
I asked him if he would also check the tire pressure for the wheel. When the SUV hit the Mercury, it may have bent the rim. In any case, the tire won’t hold pressure anymore. Fortunately, there was a full size spare in the trunk of the car, which Troy planned on putting on my rim. If it doesn’t hold air, I asked him to get me a new rim too.

Free Music

Back in 1999, Napster was my friend. I loved free music. I was a poor MK, so buying $20 CDs really wasn’t in my budget. It was right when my family had come down to the States, so I had a lot of music to catch up on. And so, with an old 286 that my dad had spraypainted the case of (my present for Christmas) I was a downloading fiend. Armed with a CD burner and a RCA Shockwave CD player, I was a king.

Two years later, Napster was dead, and I had turned to other things like mp3.com and Epitonic for my free music buzz. When they moved on, I discovered Pandora.

Now, I’ve discovered that some sites offer mp3s over RSS feeds. Which means if you have Google Reader, you can play, and decide to download them right there (no visiting numerous sites to try and find music). Whenever music is uploaded, it shows up in Reader. And if you really like the song, you can click on the link and see the rest of their work.

Here are a few feeds I’ve found so far:

http://www11.nrk.no/urort/ – a Norwegian music site. Wide variety, including a surprising volume of english material

http://freeitunessongs.blogspot.com/ – Keeps track of the free music that iTunes periodically releases (you must have a (free) iTunes account

http://freemusic.freeculture.org/media/feed/atom/media – Very wide variety, but typically lots of World music. Pop and rock mixed in there too.

Let me know if you find some more!

Steve Mathewes, The Mercury & Gospel Choir

In case you haven’t heard, the sky is falling.
And as it turns out, my parents and I aren’t the only ones in trouble.

Steve Mathewes

Meet Steve Mathewes.
He’s a talented musician (with a B.A. in the field), accomplished performer and has a musical steel trap for a mind. He can, at any given moment, reproduce a menagerie of musical facts the artists themselves probably have forgotten.
You probably remember me talking about his wife; Jocelyn. She was my former classmate at Messiah, and coworker when we worked for the National Fatherhood Initiative.
They also have a baby daughter, who is about the same age as Nya. Once their baby Ruth came along, Jocelyn decided to become a stay at home mom and to grow her event photography business.
And just about 3 weeks ago, Steve lost his job.

Steve had just taken a vacation, and while he was away, the company he was working for decided they were getting hit pretty hard by the economy too, and decided to lay off some people. People like Steve.
So without any warning (fuggedabout 2 weeks) Steve comes back to find himself jobless.

A few days ago, Jocelyn sent around Steve’s resumé, so here I am passing it along to you.
Some of you may be interested in his private services; he is an accomplished Piano Tuner, and also gives drum lessons.
If you need him, or have a job available, contact him.

The Mercury

I stayed up quite late last night, and not doing Zerflin work.
Troy has been quite the slippery character. He has a really hard time staying focused, and from where our car is parked in front of our house, every passer by, cell phone call, and anything else is a distraction. So, yesterday, from the time I got home until about 1 in the morning, I stood around the car and helped him put it back together.
And we got quite a bit done. The fender is back on and firmly attached, the hinge on the hood is bent back into place, the tie-rod is straightened and reattached, and the anti-freeze has been refilled.
The tire still needs to be replaced, as does the axle, but I feel accomplished.
I’m still worried, though. Next Tuesday we’re driving up to Quebec. If worst comes to worst, we may have to rent a car. But I really really hope it doesn’t.
Keep praying.

My Parents Car

Still no news on my parents car situation. So far the response has been slow. That didn’t really surprise me… not too many people want to buy art during an economic downturn!

Gospel Choir

Again, more bad news. Remember Twi? Among other things, his car was totaled. He was in some traffic and while he was checking his blind spot, someone stopped in front of him. Keep him in your prayers. He’s optimistic and is already looking at new cars, but that, along with us not being able to sing this month (the church has some other matters to attend to) has him in need of prayer.

That’s all the news for now.
Talk to you later!

The Great Minivan Art Sale

As many of you know, my parents are missionaries in Northern Quebec.

As many of you ALSO know, my parents have very recently had some major car troubles.

So, we’re raising money for them. Through art.

I’ve recently updated the pricing structure for selling my art of the Zerflin website. You can check it out by going to the Art Gallery, clicking on any piece of art, and scrolling to the bottom. Underneath the comment field, you find a place to buy the art.

So, here’s where the Great Minivan Art Sale comes in.

At the bottom of the size/finish options on the Add to Cart field, are some Charity options.

If you want to give 1$, buy a 4×6:Charity print. (it’ll be $1.30)
If you want to give 5$, buy a 8×10:Charity ($6.75)
If you want to give $25, buy a 10×15:Mounted-Charity ($35.50)
If you want to give $50, buy a 12×18:Mounted-Charity ($70.50)
If you want to give $100, buy a 16×24:Mounted-Charity ($139.25)
If you want to give $125, buy a 20×30:Mounted-Charity ($174.25)
If you want to be extremely generous and give $500, buy a 40×60:Mounted-Charity ($686.50)

You get the idea.

100% of ALL PROFITS will go to my parents.

And every little bit counts. If you can do $1.30, please.

Of course, you can get a whole bunch of 4×6’s too. They make great gifts! Give them away. Do as you will.

And thank you. 🙂

State of the Agency, Gospel Singing, Stay at home Mom, and a Leaky Gas Tank

Whew! I’m a little sore.

State of the Agency

Friday Merrick Towle had it’s State of the Agency meeting. It went well, and afterwards we all herded over to a party at the house of a friend of the Partners. The place was huge. My whole block could have easily fit in his house.

In the back was a boardwalk-staircase running by a stream cascading down the back of the house where a private dock was, which parked two yachts, a speedboat, and twin jetskis.

Our domain was the enormous multo-leveled pool deck that wrapped around the back of the house, where a caterer had set up a dozen long tables and decked out a buffet line with Maryland crabs, chicken, corn on the cob, burgers and hot dogs. There were 6 giant coolers of beer (I finally found one that had Coke in it) and twin miniature waterfalls the cascaded down a rock diving board into a pool.

It was a little awkward for me, I’ll admit. It’s still hard to carry on conversations for me. Large places with lots of people make it difficult for me to follow conversations.
In addition to that, everyone sort of divided up into their pre-defined cliques. Being such a large agency, people tend to form smaller groups that they’ll eat lunch with, visit when they’re bored, or invite to private parties. Midway through the meal, I discovered my table was just such a clique; a group of people who I eat lunch with all the time.

I broke away when I was full, and walked around to see if anyone else wasn’t part of a group. My group is pretty friendly, and welcome in just about anyone. I grabbed a perch up on the steps that led down to the pool and pulled out my sketchbook. Midway through some doodling, Meagan Crable (Donna McGee’s daughter) stopped by, and we talked and drew a bit longer. It got hotter and hotter and finally I jumped off the porch and got changed, and jumped in the pool. It felt SO nice. I spent the rest of the time in the pool.

Pretty soon Patrick joined us in the pool too. He was so crazy! I’d never seen him so wild (he’s usually pretty stern at work). We found a couple tennis balls, and threw them all over the pool, splashing people on the edge. I spent nearly the entire rest of the time in the pool.

Gospel Singing

Twi Jackson invited Tamika and I to sing at his church. He’s been putting a group together, and our first practice is going to be this Saturday. I’m very excited. We’ve been going to a huge church near us called New Psalmist Baptist Church. It’s ENOURMOUS. They have three services on Sundays, and I think the church seats a little over a thousand people. It’s packed every service. Anyway; I’ve been listening to their choir a lot (who are REALLY good), and have been missing singing. I used to sing bass in Gospel choir at Messiah, Rev. Jimmy Allen Thomas used to lead. I miss it so much.


Stay at home Mom

Come September Tamika is officially going to be a stay at home mom! She’s been working out the details with my old (her current) employer, the National Fatherhood Initiative, and this week she finalized it. She’s going to be coming up on the Schefferville trip, and then working part time until September. She’s very excited!

Leaky Gas Tank

So, this morning, Tamika and I went to put gas in the Saturn.
After $5 worth (barely over a gallon) I saw a large puddle rushing away from the car.
I shut the pump off and dove under the car. Gas was POURING from the car, all over the pavement.

That is the last straw for me. I’ll no longer be using that car to drive my family around in. The bearing is still bad, it still has a hole in the muffler, no AC, and now this.

We drove it back to the house and parked it, and asked Talisha if we could borrow her car today. She (again) generously agreed.

Troy still has not fixed the Mercury. He has his own struggles he’s currently working through, but he admitted to me that he’s been putting it off.

I really don’t know what God has in store, but I know it’s something good.

Gas leak fixed

I got home from work today before Tamika did, and Talisha and her boyfriend were out, so I was home alone. Tamika hadn’t been feeling so great this morning, so we had driven separately, me in our Saturn, her in Talisha’s.

Part of the curb outside our house comes up about half a foot, so I gunned the engine and boosted the rear of the car up in the curb. Our neighbor Troy (the one fixing the Mercury) and I had previously determined that the fuel leak was coming from the rear, and not from the front of the car like I had originally thought.

While I was positioning the car, our neighbor Gary (really good guy) came out and offered me his wheel ramp. I lifted the car up on the ramp, and started feeling around underneath the car.

I hadn’t been under there more than 5 minutes when Troy came by, and without a word, slid under the car with me, and began helping me get it done. Seeing the opportunity; Gary had me regurgitate the car situation to him while Troy and I worked. I’m pretty sure Troy got the drift of the gravity of our car situation, and after Gary left, remarked that he might have some time later on this week to fix the Mercury.

Around this time, Tamika and Talisha both rolled up. Troy and I lowered the gas tank down out of the car, and discovered a puddle of gas sitting in one of the cavities in the tank. We discovered a hairline crack in one of the pipes that was attached to a hose in the top of the tank. We put some tank sealing putty on it, and put it all back together again.

So, here’s hoping!

New Kids and Old Cars

Aloha!

So, at lot is going on, and I owe you all a new post.

In this issue:
We’re having another baby,
What’s going on with our car(s),
and my parent’s car situation.

We’re having another baby!

Tamika is now 15 weeks pregnant with our second child. We don’t know if it’s a boy or a girl yet, but once we find out we’ll let you know. We’re expecting him or her to be born in late December.

Here are some pictures!

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Nya is doing wonderful, here are some pictures for her (so she doesn’t feel left out).

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What’s going on with our car(s).

So, if you read along in the previous entry; you know that I was in an accident.

The insurance company decided it was my fault. When I talked to the agent on the phone, he said he completely understood the situation, and he said it probably really wasn’t my fault, but since no injury or loss of life occurred, it really wasn’t worth it to them (monetarily) to fight it.

Oh well.

A mechanic friend of ours who lives down the street named Troy took a look at the Mercury (the one in the accident) it and discovered that the wheel took most of the impact when I was hit. The frame of the car was intact! He said he could fix it for $200 (parts n’ labour), so we paid him a $100 deposit. He said he’d be able to get it done in 3 days.

He bought the parts, began working on it… and now 3 days has turned into 4 weeks. It’s sitting outside our house up on a block with the front left fender and wheel off of it. I’ve given up pestering him about it. If it’s God’s will, he’ll get it done.

In the meantime, we’ve been trying to drive our Saturn as little as possible. It still has a hole in the exhaust, a burned out front left front bearing and is leaking fuel. We’ve been borrowing Tamika’s sister’s car. But last weekend, while we were driving back from a wedding in South Carolina, her muffler fell off.

So, our car situation isn’t that good.

Come July 22, we’re going to be joining my parents and my sister, and making the trip up to Schefferville. We’re very excited, it will be my first time back in 4 years, and Tamika’s first time visiting the Naskapi tribe.

We’re not sure what God has in store.

My Parent’s car situation.

My parent’s car situation isn’t much better; they had just driven 6 hours to pick up a car that had been donated to them… only to have it die on the way home. 2 rental car trips and lots of gas money later; they had to leave it at the mechanic they had gotten it towed to. Their (current) car has a busted catalytic converter (which makes it fail emissions in Connecticut).

Prayers are much needed for both of us. My parents are working to raise $3000 to buy a (reliable) used minivan. If you’re interested in helping them out, contact me.

That’s all I can think of for now. I’ll send you more if I remember.

Peace & Love!

Hurtin’

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I’m having a rough time right now, I need prayer.

Our Saturn, a 2001 LS, has been dying a slow death. Last summer, rust won it’s slow war on the muffler, and turned our quiet maroon car into a roaring hot rod. The mechanics said on a Saturn the entire muffler assembly is one piece from the head to tail, and costs $3000 used to replace. We we left it.
A short time later, the driver’s side seat adjusters blew, forcing Tamika to use three pillows to reach the pedals.
A month back, I brought it in for it’s 3 month oil change, and the mechanic told me that not only had a n axle bearing gone bad on the right front wheel (making the thing sound like a tank rumbling down the road) but that there was a fuel leak somewhere in between the front passenger seat and the front right tire.
So not only could the car suddenly lose control and/or it’s wheel; but it could also spontaneously catch on fire at any moments. The mechanic made me sign something that said that I understood that it was extremely dangerous to drive. But at $800 just to see if the could fix the problems, there was no way we could afford it.

My parents had a 1986 Mercury Sable sitting in their yard that had been donated to them. A very good family friend of my grandparents had given them the car, it had been bought by the owner brand new in 1986 with every bell and whistle and extra car care package imaginable. He never drove it more than 80,000 miles (under HALF the mileage our car has, which is 15 years younger). The car looked real bad cosmetically because the clear-coat they put on it in the 80’s was never designed to last 20 years, but ran like a dream.

My dad offered to drive it down to us and give it to us if we paid for the title transfer fee.
Tamika and I talked it over, and realized it was probably the best idea.

So, yesterday, my parents drove the Mercury down from Connecticut. This morning, my dad and I put a coat of paint on the wall, and went to get my motorcycle registered at the MVA. We drove up and back in the car, and I really started to like it. It’s beautiful inside.

We worked on the motorcycle most of the afternoon, and I went out to pick up some supplies for the bike.

That’s when it happened.

I was coming down a side street, and came to a stop sign. I stopped; and there was a four-lane road in front of me; two lane in either direction. I had to go all the way across.
Down the street to my right; a light at the next intersection had turned red, and so all the cars had stopped. Once everyone had stopped, a couple cars to my left stopped and motioned me forward (so that they wouldn’t be blocking my intersection, so I came forward
On my right was a big bus that I couldn’t see around, so I stopped and poked my nose out to see if traffic was coming the opposite direction.
I couldn’t see. I stopped. I inched a little further.
Still nothing. Open road. I stopped. I inched out a little further, and

WHAM. A huge Chevy SUV came barreling out of nowhere and hit the front left side of my car full force. Bumper parts when flying. My car spins 90º. In a panic, the drive of the other car hits their gas pedal, and lurches forward again before slamming on their brakes.

The Mercury coughs and dies, a faint odor coming from under the hood; all of it’s dashboard lights flashing haphazerdly.

I dash from the car to see if the other driver was ok (I felt fine). An round elderly woman is sitting in the SUV with her door half open, clutching her cellphone and shaking. I asked her if she was alright. She didn’t say anything. She begins hollering at whoever was at the other end that she had been hit. I asked he if she need anything. She called someone else.

A traffic officer comes over and tells me I should probably get into my vehicle. People are driving all around us, honking their horns, driving between us to get through the intersection I was in. 4 other times, other people almost got hit.

A crowd gathered. A man in a blue shirt approached me and asked me if I was ok. I said I was.

I got out to look at the car. The entire right wheel was bashed in, the fender inverted, the front end in ruins, and bits of broken headlights and parts of my axle strewn about the road. I grabbed a couple semi-intact parts and threw them in the passenger seat.

I took a look at the SUV. She was still hollering in her phone. There was a chip on the left side of her front bumper.

About then, the cop arrived. He suggested I get back in my car.

A paramedic ran towards me, and asked me if I needed an ambulance. I said no.

A BMW pulled up in the intersection across from where I got hit; a man in an orange shirt got out.

“Do you need a tow?” he asked, looking doubtfully at the car.

The police officer appeared at my window. “Can you drive?” he asked.

“I don’t know.” I replied. I started the car. It was running real rough. I put it in gear and it started to sound like a woodchipper. “I don’t think it will” I said.

The officer nodded, asked me what happened. I told him.

“Do you have the registration?” he asked.

“I just got the car today and…”

“Today?” he rubbed his forehead

“…yeah. My dad and I were just at the MVA trying to figure out the transfer of the title.”

“That’s why it has Connecticut plates?”

“Yeah. The registration is back at my house.”

“Ok.” He walked back to his squad car.

“So you want a tow? My truck is right around the corner.” the man in the orange shirt pointed.

I nodded. Another paramedic came over and asked me to sign something telling them I was refusing an ambulance. He commented the axle looked broken. He asked me how long I had had the car. I told him. He was incredulous. “Wow.” he said. I told him about our other car. “Well, it’s like my father used to say,” he said, “‘If it’s not fleas, it’s ticks.'” He said the woman didn’t want an ambulance either.

I called my dad. I asked him if he had the registration. He said he did. I gave my phone to the officer.

I picked up some more pieces.

A white tow truck showed up. I asked him if he was with the man in the orange shirt. He said no. He said he would wait to see if the other guy showed up.

A firetruck pulled up. A couple firemen got out, talked to the officer, and got back in the truck and drove away.

My dad called me, and said he had AAA. He said they would cover any car he had, and tow it for 3 miles for free. I was less than three miles from home. I told him to go ahead and call them. I gave him my location.

A blue tow truck showed up. I asked him if he was with AAA. He said no. He said he would wait to see if he was needed.

The officer drove around behind me to block traffic; I was in the middle of the road.

I prayed.

I went up to the squad car. I asked the officer if had everything he needed. He said he did. I asked him if I should get the other lady’s insurance. He said that would all be in the report he was filing. I thanked him.

One of the tow trucks drove off; I could see the lady who hit me drove off too.

The man in the orange shirt showed up. I told him I didn’t need him, but thanks anyway.

I called Tamika.

My phone died.

I powered it up again and called her again.

It died again.

I called my house. It didn’t die. I told them to call Tamika and let her know what happened. My dad said he would ride with Tamika to come with the AAA card.

The officer came by and asked if I needed a tow. I said AAA was on their way.

I prayed.

A very drunk man came to my door and gave me a card; telling my his friends owned a mechanic shop around the corner “and could fix this thing like that”, and snapped his fingers.

He stood in the middle of the street and directed blocked traffic, yelling at the idiots wary drivers who honked at him. He laid down on the street and looked under my car. A puddle of oil was escaping from the engine. He got up again and laid down on the other side.

He came back to my window and confessed that he knew nothing about cars, but his friends did.

I powered up my phone, and called the house. Tamika had just arrived, they were on their way.

A AAA van pulled up across the street, and a man wearing a flurescent yellow vest and sunglasses came out.

“Are you ok?” he said.

“Yes. But my car is in trouble.” I said.

“I see that. Don’t worry. The truck will be here soon.

I powered up my phone again, and called Tamika.

Nothing.

The truck showed up, and pulled in front of me. A man named Thomas got out, and began hooking cables underneath the car to pull it up on his lift.

“Do you have your AAA card on you?” he asked.

“No I don’t, it’s my parent’s…” I said, “they’ll be here any minute.”

“Ok…” he faltered, “They need to be here.”

“They will be,” I assured him, powering up my phone again.

He shrugged and got back to work.

The puddle underneath the car had gotten bigger, and because the front right tire had been pushed so far into the car; it wouldn’t turn at all. Despite the oil it was tough to drag onto the back of the truck. Thomas stuck a skid underneath the tire.

The man in the AAA van took my keys and steered (as best he could) while Thomas ran the winch.

Thomas came by “You get ahold of them?” he asked, motioning at my phone.

“No, they’re not picking up.”

“Try again.” He drove his truck off to the side of the road.

I ran to the squad car and thanked the officer.

I tried calling again. My phone died. I ran up and told him so.

“Use mine.” he said, tossing me his.

I powered up my phone just long enough to get the number into his phone. I called.

Nothing.

I called again. Tamika picked up. They had broken down on their way over. She was just past the bridge on the Hilton Parkway. She was frantic. My dad was with her, standing in the median trying to slow people down. Two people had almost hit her already.

Thomas was amazed. He began driving. He asked me where they were. I told them.

Tamika was sitting in the car, the blinkers flashing. My dad was waving his arms frantically, watching people thunder around the corner. I traded places with him, and he went to the truck.

People were driving like maniacs. One lady in a Chevy came within inches of Tamika’s bumper, skidding on the pavement.

Dad directed the truck to come up behind Tamika, and I joined them at the Saturn. My dad had the hood open. I told Tamika to try to start it. We all guessed that it was probably gas. Tamika looked at my painfully.

I asked my dad if there was a gas can in the trunk of the Mercury. The one serious problem with the car was the the gauge was sometime finicky. He said it was.

I vaulted onto the truck and got the can out, then ran back to the car. I poured the whole thing in.

Tamika tried to start the car. Nothing.

Thomas asked if he could try. He let it sit for a second, let out the brake, pushed in the clutch and started it right up.

Tamika got in the car, Thomas and my dad got into the truck, and they followed me home.

Thomas dropped the car in as best he could on our street, but then used his lift like a jack and gently eased the car into place so it wasn’t sticking out into traffic.

We thanked him a lot.

Now, I’m not quite sure what to do. The Saturn is officially a death trap.

Since the lady who hit me had the right of way, I’m not sure who is at fault. She was obviously speeding, and the nose of my car was visible for quite some time poking out from behind the bus. But I don’t know. I’m nervous. People on the street, the officer, and Thomas all told me I should go get checked out at the emergency room. But I’m scared. If her insurance company finds me at fault; I’ll have to pay the medical bills. With the economy the way it is, we really can’t afford that right now.

And now this beautiful car is wrecked. And if her insurance company find me at fault…
Tamika said God has plan. And I know that He does. But it’s hard. I just can’t see it right now…

Pray.

Memory and Trains

Aloha!
I’m writing from the Baltimore-New London train. We’re about 2 hours away still. Tamika has her feet across my lap, and Nya is tucked in at my feet sleeping soundly in her car seat.
I love train rides.
The fascination was born into me early; I still remember glimpses of riding with my parents on the Chicago elevated trains when I was little. We lived on Magnet Avenue in Chicago. I recently found out they had made a Google Maps Street View of it and went to take a look; but I wasn’t able to match any of the houses with the faded photograph of me and my dad sitting on the porch.

I remember a lot of when I was little. Comparatively, anyhow… Most people don’t seem to be able to remember much past 3 years old. Some particularly close-minded people don’t remember anything past their 20’s… 🙂 I remember a thunderstorm and my mom & dad bringing me out on the porch to watch. I remember going to a pumpkin field for Halloween. It was sunset, and all the pumpkins were the same colour as the sun… I remember my parents drawing faces on three pumpkins with a Sharpie, (mine was the smallest; the size of an apple) and then scooping out their guts and setting them aglow atop our mantle (or was it an upright piano?)

Certain things escape me. A lot, actually. I remember us living at some pastor’s house at one point. All the “kids stuff” that the house had was a tire swing on a big tree out front.
I remember discovering that not only did the faded green and brick coloured tiles at the top of the creaky wooden stairs on the second floor come up when you picked at them, but they also had about 50 years worth of dust underneath them that was fun to drive my toy cars through.
But I have no idea why we lived there, or when, or for how long.

I think that’s why I like to write journals, so that when I’m 60 or 70 I’ll be able to read them and find out what life was like and remember.

I have a pretty bad memory. If you know me at all, I’ve probably forgotten your birthday. And I’ve probably forgotten it more than once. I’m not a pompous prick, I promise. I actually feel so bad when I forget something; that it completely wrecks whatever mood I’m in when I find out. I feel really awful. I’ve been trying really hard to figure out what to do to help myself out.

I used to be bad at remembering where I put things. My glasses were constantly lost; my keys, my wallet… Anything not permanently attached to my body got lost. So, I started to develop a system. Wallet in left pocket. Glasses case on right. Keys on left belt loop. Change goes on the right. Camera bag goes over left shoulder and sits on right side. Always.
These things keep me from loosing them, because otherwise they’re really gone. I feel like there is something wrong with me mentally when I do it, but I feel like I have no choice.
It’s the same when I come home. If I don’t put my bag, shoes and coat in the exact same place each time, I loose those too.
For birthdays and such, I’ve started to put them in an online calendar. It lets me know when people’s birthdays are, and if I do it right, it alerts me a couple days in advance.
But then… sometimes I forget the alert…

My long term memory is really strong, though. I remember a lot of details about past events.
Journals help with this too.

So; back to today.
We were late for our train. We were initially supposed to take the 10:10am train from Baltimore. But, because of a number of things; we got there at 10:11. I literally was running along side the train as it pulled off; shouting at the conductor to let us on.
He was right; it was safer to wait for the next train with me carrying Nya in her car seat, but it still made me mad. He had signaled to the engineer to pull off even though we were on the platform.
Ah well.
Tamika got us Business Class tickets for the 4:47pm train (the last ones available), and we went back home for a while. It ended up being a good thing, because Tamika had forgotten her phone, and we got to pay Talisha for watching Nya for the past two weeks.
Not only that, but a couple ads in the Philadelphia City Paper I had done for Chosen Dance Company had needed to be resized (or they would have missed the publication deadline), so I was able to do those too.

I’ve been doing a lot of work lately. I’ve been working on a bunch of small projects for the CCFOF, designing a whole new site for Barak Drama, putting the final touches on Brian Mengini’s site, and Chosen Dance Company brought me a new client that they’re doing a program with up in Philly.

Zerflin is growing fast. In a post or two I’m going announce a new employee! We finished up the negotiations and he’s accepted the position; I just have to get his bio from him to put up on the Staff page. Tamika has also been taking on a larger role with managing the projects as well as doing some coding and design work as well.

I am looking forward to this break, though. The most I plan on doing these next 4 days is finishing up a logo, writing some quotes, and a few odds and ends. I just want to sleep. 🙂

Pray that I keep my wits about me through all this, and that I’m able to delegate and hire out to others when I can. It’s hard for me, because I want to both keep doing quality work and also be able to do the occasional pro-bono job (Mixed Chick’s Chat Mixed Roots Film and Literary Festival has been the latest), but still make enough money to help my family out and let the business grow. The quality part is the hard part; making sure that the people I hire do good work. I’ve been burned a couple times in the past; where people have done work for me and did a shoddy job… and I had to go in a do the whole thing all over again.

Time is the one thing I DON’T have, so to go in and clean something up after you trusted someone to handle it is really hard. But that’s growing pains I guess…

Nya is doing wonderfully. She loves being tickled now, and has the cutest laugh known to man. She also likes it when I make funny faces. She is still sleeping through the night, but we’ve been noticing she wakes up early sometimes.

Tamika and I have begun a schedule to help us not feel so frantic in the mornings. Nya goes to bed at 8:30, and we’ve started off by cutting off electronics (me on my computer and her on the TV) at 9:30. By 10 we’re in bed, though we can read and talk until we fall asleep. Then, at 6:00am, we both wake up, help each other out of bed, and then one of us gets to take a shower first, and the other takes care of Nya and fixes breakfast. At 6:30, we switch, and the one not taking a shower gets to eat and clean up, and gets to clean up something (like the pots and pans or empty the dishwasher. Then at 7 Talisha takes over for Nya and we’re out the door; Tamika drives me to the train station and she drives to work.
It helps us both get sleep and breakfast, which has been great for us; and keeps us from rushing too much.
Plus, since Nya wakes up by 6 anyway, it makes sure she gets fed and changed first thing.

Huh. Another ritual. 😀

Funny, though, all this ritual doesn’t keep me from still being a Savage. I still do wild and crazy things like jump off buildings and go exploring in the woods. I think the rituals help me be able to do that stuff, because everything else I’m sure is taken care of.
Who knows.
I’m weird. 🙂